Tis the season of potholes right now, the result of freezing and thawing many times over the course of a winter. The surface pavement always fares better when the extra work has been put into the base of the road being built. Somehow potholes don't keep reappearing where the proper foundation was laid. Then there are the sinkholes that swallow cars and home. Have you ever thought about applying that same principle in pursuing transformation in your life?
On what foundation is your identity built? Have you considered how your family impacts your understanding of how relationships function? Have your traumatic experiences shaped how you view others as safe or unsafe? How did school affect you? As Christians, we think our behaviour should match a particular standard. If it doesn't, we are consumed with guilt and try harder as if we had the willpower in our own strength to change. Chariti Kupiec called it 'white-knuckling your actions' to conform to a particular standard.
I recently listened to a podcast where she (Chariti Kupiec) discussed foundational lies(see bottom of article for link) She called those identity lies, the 'words that run amok in our heads when we're all alone'. These lies can impact our core relationships and can be passed down to our children. An example she gave was of someone who believes she will be rejected and so she rejects those around her as being incapable of loving her. Her children will sense her rejection of them and feel unloved.
Knowing who you are in Christ is important. You are:
knit together by God, fearfully and wonderfully made(Psalm 139:13-16)
made for a reason (Ephesians 2:10)
fought for by God (Exodus 14:13-14)
received into God's family (Romans 8:14-16)
created to hold joy and His presence(Psalm 16:11)
full of God's divine power to live a godly life (2 Peter 1:2-8)
Chariti helped me understand which lies needed to be rooted out of my spiritual foundation. I encourage you to take a listen and if tears come to the surface as you are listening to it, stop and repent and ask God for a Scripture verse that reveals the truth opposite the lie you were believing. Let's pursue the transformation promised us through the renewing of our minds and quit conforming to the patterns of this world.
Lies We believe Part 1 https://streamsministriesint.subspla.sh/pdhtg8b